I Get Lost in Your Lives

koobecaf morf kaerb aBack on June 20th I said on the books of faces that I was going to conduct a social experiment by not logging into my account for a month. The experiment was to gauge how relevant and useful a thing like Facebook is for me.

I deleted the application from all of my mobile devices. I flushed my credentials from my browsers and in case I had to scratch the itch, I had Twitter and Google Plus.

At first I had to get over my OCD actions of checking it in the morning, or when I wanted to see something, anything, all of the time. That was my first realization that helped me unravel my behaviors around this social network. I wasn’t checking it for any reason other than to see if there was anything personally addressed, waiting for me. Almost like when you check the mailbox and hope for a surprise letter from a friend, or family member. Instead all you received were bills and grocery store coupons addressed to “current resident”, which is similar to how I felt my experience with Facebook was turning into.

After a couple weeks into this I realized that my birthday was approaching and how that was a huge wrench to throw into my experiment. What did I do? OK, so I logged in all stealth like before the bowling party. (Mara called it) Who doesn’t want to feel a little special? Otherwise I continued on, but it was almost like quitting smoking cigarettes. I craved something I’m going to call “micro-reactions”. I realized that I was missing the ups and downs of everyones news all in one place. I was a little grossed out by myself there for a moment. Was I addicted to life drama, inspirational posters, and quotations from pioneers? Yes, yes I was. So I decided that that best medicine was to hang out with friends and find out what was happening in the real-real world, in the here-now-here-now instead.

Once I wrapped this up on July 20th I decided to log in and use Facebook as I used to. I didn’t miss too much. So while I was having these fits, spells, and vapors, everything was just as it was. I was sure I missed some things to laugh at, some accomplishments, and bad news, but I didn’t look back. No way. I’m living in the here-now-here-now now.

The conclusion, it was super awesome to get all of the behaviors around my social network usage in check. Is Facebook something that I find useful? Admittedly, I do. There’s a lot of rough, but there are those diamonds that make it worth it. Is it something I need to look at every time my hand comes into contact with a keyboard? Nay nay. Information and communication are precious things. Just because you can binge on the whatnot’s, who’s it’s, and where’s it’s doesn’t mean you should. Well, at least for me.

My challenge for you is to use your phone as a phone for a day, or a whole month! Use any device that connects you to the world to discover something new, like they did before the dinosaurs died. Did you indulge on a little peek? Call, or text your friend and tell them what you think of what you saw. Nothing shows more love and connection than kickin it and communicating with your buds IRL.

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  1. Kristopher Olsen
    Posted July 25, 2012 at 8:42 pm | Permalink

    Wonderful entry…and as a plus, a Debbie Gibson reference? You never disappoint.

  2. Deborah Denton , Mom
    Posted July 26, 2012 at 12:44 pm | Permalink

    You are a talented wonderful human being whose insight is phenomenal. Wonderful aricle and as the above comment reads “you never disappoint!!

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